He doesn't care for me, or am I being too sensitive?

We're both in our 30s, no kids. We've been dating for 4-5 mos. We see each other almost everyday (on his request). I cook 90% of the time (by choice).

After work, he tells (vents to) me about his day, the annoying co-workers...standard stuff until after dinner, then he'll read a magazine or fall asleep on my couch until time to go home. Seems he's always too exhausted to listen to my day.

He has never gotten me anything, no flowers, no gifts, not even little things I need around the house. I don't need someone spending $40 on a dozen roses on me, but I don't even get a $2.99 rose from 7-Eleven. On the other hand, I'm constantly doing/buying little things for him, sometimes make lunch and deliver it to him. I feel I am not getting any returns from the time and effort investment I am putting in.

I am a cheap date. We dine out about once a week and the bill is around $25. He pays for that and the groceries. He doesn't support me financially otherwise.

Am I being too sensitive?

He doesn't care for me, or am I being too sensitive?
He appears to only be interested in himself, very hard habit to break. I would suggest not inviting him over for awhile and than when he asks you why, let him know your feelings. If he comes back in anger let him go because he will prove to you that he is a self absorbent or selfish individual who only cares about his own needs. If a man is truly falling for a woman he will show her just how much he cares for her i.e., cards, gifts, dinner, vacation, flowers or even just small signs of generosity.



Good luck!!!
Reply:If you like this guy and want to spend time with him, then you need to tell him that you have needs to and they are not being meet by him and if this continues your relationship will be very strained and non existent. If this doesn't work then, I would seek another partner who will appreiciate you more. God bless and Good Luck.
Reply:no, you're not.. it's normal for us to atleast expect the person we love and care about to give back atleast a little of what we give to them.. love is supposed to be give and take, and it seems like you're the only one doing all the giving.. talk things out before it gets worse.. if he really loves you, and he feels that you're not satisfied with what he's showing you, then i'm sure that he'll change his ways..
Reply:NO NEED TO HAVE MORE VALUE IN YOURSELF BEFORE HE COULD FIND VALUE IN YOU. COOKS EARN A HELL OF ALOT OF MONEY. PUT A PRICE TAG ON ALL THAT YOU DO AND DETERMINE YOUR OWN WORTH. LET HIM KNOW YOUR VALUE AND DEMAND MORE FROM HIM. HE WILL DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO OR WILL NOT DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM NOT TO DO. B
Reply:Have you ever asked him why he wants to see you almost everyday? To me it doesnt sound like yall really have conversations or just hang out together-(dont get me wrong nothing is wrong with comeing over and crashing cause your tired sometimes but every time!!)??
Reply:NO, you need to express to him how you feel. Let him know that you like little surprises too.
Reply:Answer these questions b cuz u have the answers.

Does he ask u about ur day?..... Hell naw.

Does he deliver u lunch?...hell no

Has he ever gotten u a gift...? Hell naw

Should u give him da time of day...(my answer 2 ur question)... HELL Naw....
Reply:No, your not. Everyone wants as much love as they give out, it's natural. However; if this guy is working, and gets tired from it, it may be reason enough to excuse this. At least for now. First off.. if he's venting about his day to you, it means he loves you enough to talk comfortably. That's good. Men aren't always the most affectionate, I'm sure you know that, Even if they don't buy you things or listen to your day, it doesn't mean they don't love you very, very much. My advice, is to play this out a little longer. But stop buying him so many things, atleast a little. You never know, sweetheart, you bringing him lunch and listening to his day could really be helping this guy out, and making him happy. Just see how things go :) i'd say he cares for you, but just blows at showing it!
Reply:not at all
Reply:no you are not he is butting very cheap and inconsiderate and you should tell him about him about his self
Reply:Run!! it's not that he feels comfortable. It's that he's self absorbed. This is not a good sign in such a short time. He should be picking you up for dates not living there. He should need to do kind things for you. Hell, I wouldn't mind knowing where you go for 25$. kidding;) The fact that he's there "Almost every day" shows that you already feel trapped. Why should anyone have to settle. Someone is out there that is a perfect fit.
Reply:get used to it or find someone else, not every guy thinks of stuff like that
Reply:I'm thinking that you should break it off - it's not good if you're feeling this way after only 5 months. Why waste time on a relationship where you do all of the giving? If anything, the break off might wake him up!
Reply:No you not he with you because of convenience move on you are doing to much !
Reply:i say dump him
Reply:If you want it to work, he should be the one your talking to about this. You've already gotten off to a bad start by not opening the line of communication. Your in your thirties, both of you are probably showing your true colors. He's comfortable really quick with showing them and you are scarred to talk to him about it. You sound more like friends than lovers. It doesn't get better if you never tell him your expectations. His romance levels usually won't go up. It's typical to get the best up front unless you learn to tell him what you require and expect. Get it out of the way now or live with the consequences of not telling him. It's tough to tell your mate what you want, but it's easier than being miserable.