Am i too demanding?

I am in a long distance relationship. Our one year anniversary was yesterday but we couldn't see each other. I expected to get flowers or something delivered but NOTHING. Am i too demanding for expecting that? I am so sick of flipping on my bf he doesnt do anything right!!!

Am i too demanding?
Yes you are, you made me answer this question. I think you're just expecting something that should have been done. I think its more about not having patience.
Reply:Well, I don't think you are being too demanding. I'd probably have hoped for a little something too.

But more than that really, do you think this guy is the guy for you..

Sounds like this goes much deeper than not getting flowers.

Maybe it's time to re-evaluate things.

Good Luck
Reply:Yes....be glad he even got you something.



and by the look of your avatar..you LOOK demanding too.



oops..slipped out. sorry
Reply:yes
Reply:long distance relationships don't work.
Reply:Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. How well do you two communicate? Guys don't handle subtlety that well so if you want flowers you'll have to tell him (as well as what kind, what color, etc. unless you want him to surprise you). You can drop every hint in the world, but you have to tell him. Think of your guy as someone who is new to your workplace--you have to explain everything to him at first, but eventually he'll catch on. If this relationship is important, cut your guy some slack and look at this as an opportunity to improve how you communicate and start fresh.
Reply:Well get a new f*cking boyfriend.()
Reply:Well he is doing SOMETHIGN right if u have been together for a year..... but anyways...... no your not expecting too much..... but for a LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP kinda..... cause number one....you cant see each other.... but number two you should jokingly.... be like " What are you getting me for Valentines Day?"
Reply:No you ar not, that the least he could do, pls let him know this is unacceptable and he will have to pay for it and that he owes you two bouquets....
Reply:You should just give up ld relationships dont work. He was probably out screwing someone and thought oh you know what today is....
Reply:yes... like ALL women... you think are too demanding... your expectations are from a female not a males point of view...
Reply:Your year anniversary of what? The day you met? Your first date? The day you decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend?

Yes, you're expecting too much. But you should get a new boyfriend who does things your way.
Reply:No, that is not too demanding. I'm in a long distance relationship also. So, I know how it feels. My boyfriend makes it a priority to see each other on our anniversary and days like that. Your boyfriend should have sent you something if he couldn't make it to see you. You must talk to him about that. Not being a whiny-poo about it, but you know, explain to him how important it is for you to feel the connection since you two are long distance. It's not being demanding. Being demanding would be expecting flowers every week. Get my drift? Do not sacrifice your happiness because you feel like you are asking for too much. The very least he could have done was send you something. What you must do now, because men for some reason don't think like we do. Give him hints and ideas. As women, we have to kind of suggest what things we like and what will make us happy. Don't believe that men will just know automatically. They Don't! You must communicate with him and let him know that being in a long distance relationship is hard and if we are unable to see each other like how we want then your b/f needs to be on top of his game and show you other ways. I told my b/f that if he doesn't go that extra mile then why in the heck are we doing this anyway? But remember, it goes both ways. You can't expect for him to go over and beyond if you don't. So, have the talk with him, be honest and don't settle!



Good luck honey. Hope it works out. There are a lot of people who understand your situation. Just let your man know what you need in the relationship.
Reply:you should have gotten at least a card
Reply:Most guys are not as sensitive as ladies when it comes to special occasions so give the guy a break. However, give him a call and joyfully remind him that yesterday was your one year anniversary and you just wanted to call and remind him how special he is to you. Sometimes it is wise to give what we want to receive. You'll be amazingly surprised at how great it makes you feel and you would have voiced your opinion to your guy in a very pleasant manner.
Reply:You should appreciate the things he does rather than be discouraged by the things he doesn't. Too many women have the romance novel expectations that are completely unrealistic. The saying goes like this- Don't expect us to be romance novel men and we won't expect you to be porn star women.
Reply:No you should get something on your one year i mean you guys both deserve something b/c you both put up with each other for a whole year...lol ....wut did you get him....
Reply:You should have gotten something from him yes. I would be upset too.
Reply:If he is not meeting your needs that is the first sign there is a problem, but you need to discuss it with him. Most guys by nature seem to be oblivious to calendars when it comes to birthdays and annivesaries of any kind and he may truly not know or remember; not because you are not important, just because his mind doesn't work that way.
Reply:I don't think your being to demanding because that is a big milestone, but you shouldn't have just expected a present. Did you guys discuss that your anniversary was coming up and how you were going to celebrate or acknowledge it at all? If not, you should confront him on the issue and see what he says.
Reply:if your not happy then you shouldn't be with him, leave him and find a guy that will meet up to your expectations :) :) :)
Reply:Every girl asks themselves this. Sometimes, we are, but then sometimes, we do have a point. In this case, yes, you do have a point and you should have gotten something. But hay, he is far away and all us girls have got to know that guys have their own lives, and yeah, you are a part of his, but he probably couldn't find anyway to get over to you. Everyone else who is giving you answers about how long distance relationships never work, this is definitely not true. Anything is possible when LOVE is involved. You and him can make it happen if you two want it bad enough. And about the answers that are saying that he is probably cheating on you is probably not true either. You know him better than that and if he was cheating on you then why would he want to waste his time to even try to talk to you or start this relationship?
Reply:maybe alittle. you dont have to over-react so much. you dont need him to send flowers or anything to prove how he feels about you, right? you have been together for a year, doesnt that say alot already? dont have such high expectations
Reply:If he doesn't do anyhting RIGHT then why are you still with him. Sounds like you are the one with ISSUES.
Reply:me and my bf have been together for over 2 years. sometimes he doesnt think about things like flowers and the little things that makes you feel special. but you need to think, when you are together are you happy? do you feel fulfilled? if yes, and the only thing that is bothering you is the lack of the flowers then i'd say you're doing good. are you going to celebrate your anniversary anytime? cause maybe he is saving the romance for then. if not, just talk to him about it. maybe he doesnt realize how important it is to you. good luck :)
Reply:relax its only 1 year, big fu***** deal
Reply:give him a break he was probably working and he probably has a nice surprise for your late anniversary



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