I don't understand why i feel guilty when my husband is nice to me.?

It's been over a year since i told him to leave, which took him by suprise and now that he has 'woken up' he has tried in his meager way to improve and impress. But my heart went years ago. It took A LOT of courage to finally tell him to go. I had said to myself " I must be worth something" and so i want to move on a find a loving relationship and a good role model for our 5 children aged 19 - 3 yrs. But my husband and i are still in the house together though we have been sleeping separately for 8 months. I try to be amicable and polite. I'm a person who can't hurt people. I live with guilt because when my husband is nice to me i get angry and i don't like me when i'm angry. For Valentine he gave me chocolates, card and delivered bunches of flowers, plus invitations to the movies. Too much and too late. But why do i feel guilty when he is nice to me?? And how do i get rid of it?

I don't understand why i feel guilty when my husband is nice to me.?
Stop falling for his guilt tactics. He knows exactly what buttons to push.
Reply:You feel guilty because he is trying and you are done. So end it already. You are torturing each other in this farce of a marriage, IF you can't find away to love him again then get out so you can both find someone to be happy with while you are still alive.
Reply:best answer is to move on ..I know it's not as easy as it sound
Reply:How is he with the kids? If he is an active father to his children? Their relationship with their father should probably trump any personal feelings you have or don't have for each other. Gotta look out for what is best for the kids first. You signed your right to be happy over when you had them.
Reply:When someone has "emotionally divorced" from the relationship, it is often hard for any type of living arrangement to work without these types of feelings. I would suggest counseling if you want to try and get back what you had. Otherwise, I would move out and get the children out of the environment. You'll be happier, they won't pick up on the issues you two have, and you won't have to keep feeling how you are. Also, if you haven't I would ask he do no gift-giving. I'm sure you've done that thought! :)
Reply:It could be a little regret too. Not that you aren't "together" anymore, but that it failed. A failed marriage takes a toll whether it seem s like it or not. The only way to get rid of it is to move on...both of you.
Reply:Get you own place already!
Reply:It's kinda hard to tell someone to leave if you are planning to still live under the same roof. He's getting mixed signals. I'd be confused, too. If you're still married, and still live together but you want to be divorced, you need to move out, or he needs to move out. If you are staying together for the kids or for financial reasons, you need to go to counselling and try to work on your marriage. You need to see a therapist on your own, too. You may find that you still have intimate feelings for him, if you give yourself a chance to heal.

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