Anyone, preferably ladies...would you find this inappropriate?

I sent flowers to this woman I've been talking with, they will be delivered to her school. She is still married but has been seperated for 5 months now. I didn't write anything lovey dovey, I just put "In appreciation for all your hard work" and wrote suprise at the bottom, I also included a funny poem about teachers that would be suitable to read to her class. She should get them today and even though I didn't find it inappropriate she might take it the wrong way. Like I said, I didn't include anything to signify this was a guy who likes her...she already knows that...but to a blind eye it would look like a parent sent these to her. She'll know it's from me!

Anyone, preferably ladies...would you find this inappropriate?
Honestly?



I think that's lovely! Whether she realises it's from you or not, what a lovely thing to receive! If I received them, I wouldn't think it inappropriate at all, but would be really touched that someone saw me and thought I was doing a good job. Recognition for a job well done is always a great thing, team that with flowers and a poem and you should have one happy lady!



I don't know whether she'll guess it's you, if not she may be a little confused inititally - I suppose she could even mistakenly think the flowers are from someone else, which might cause some raised eyebrows! But, more than likely, she'll ask around to see if anyone knows who sent them.



All I can say is that if it were me, I'd be touched and it'd brighten up my day no end!
Reply:Doesn't matter what it appears to be to others-- the truth as you wrote it, is that you are pursuing a married woman. That in itself is inappropriate.



Aside from that, sending a funny poem for her to read to her class, and to have her act as if it came from her parents, is deceitful.

It also shows that your motives were not really to encourage her, but to gain attention.
Reply:Why didn't you just give them to her? Why the mystery game? Sending it to her school (place of work) may not have been the best idea. Since she is not divorced as yet (and may reunite with her husband), she may also think it is from him. Her co workers may 'talk'...Many people do not like surprises, especially those where you have to work to figure out what it is all about, who it is from, why were they sent, is it a stalker? Next time just give the woman the flowers.
Reply:As me2 said, it's a little late now, but here's my take on it. It was a really sweet, cute and clever thing to do, but it was a bit risky, and could put her in a bad spot. A parent isn't likely to send flowers anonymously to a teacher, so the other teachers are going to know something is up. If she was trying to be discreet because she's still "married," you could've blown her cover.
Reply:it's ok but with her still married i would send them to her home. because even though no one besides her will know who they were from, it's just a little too much. private things belong at home, not the place of work. but none the less, you didn't cross the line too far.
Reply:YA so i was thinking that too!! See if she says anything then let her stew on it... see what it makes her feel like as long as she don't think they are from her x husband! You know can tell her on your 5th anniversary that yousent them.... or read the poem you sent something like that! ... if youneed to practice youcan send me flowers... lol
Reply:yes very inappropriate. because in a school setting you most up hold a wholesome image and in the mists of a divorce and receiving mystery flowers .
Reply:In my opinion when you send flowers to someon their job, the sender is in some sort of way looking for recognition...as to what I dont know, only you know that but I dont think it was necessarily inappropriate.
Reply:That is darling, and definitely not inappropriate. If anything, it will make her smile. There is no way at all that this is inappropriate. In fact, you will probably get some major points! A great women pleaser!
Reply:err..... well there's not much you can do about it now. If she asks you about it you could say it was to make her feel better cause she's been looking a little down this past week and thought she wanted cheering up.
Reply:I wouldn't worry it sounds nice and i say she will take it that way too but i suppose when it comes to teachers you got to be careful but i would think it was ok and cute
Reply:I would love it...five months is enough time. It sounds like you were creative and you did aknowlege her hard work so it very appropriate. Very nice...hope she likes it..it must of been fun coming up with it...
Reply:Well, for me, its inappropriate coz you know it might be embarassing to her. It would be better to keep it low on the admiration. I mean don't be too much of a show-off. Keep it low, man. : )
Reply:That was so sweet! I think its very appropriate. Kudos to you! Im sure you will get some brownie points for that! Although you should have maybe put your name.
Reply:Too late now you've already sent them. The question you ask doesn't matter at this point
Reply:Doesn't sound inappropriate.
Reply:I see nothing wrong with it, I'm sure she wont either and it will make her feel good.



Good job man, women love it when you do these kind of things.
Reply:Sounds sweet to me....I had a guy do something like that for me, when I was just separated from my husband...awaiting a final divorce decree...kudos to you!
Reply:Sounds fine to me. You said, she already knows that... well then, very sweet!
Reply:I dont think that it is inappropriate.

I think thats it was a sweet thing to do.

Im sure she will appreciate it.
Reply:It's perfectly ok. don't worry. just hope she knows who they are from.
Reply:really pity
Reply:send it to her home next time, since she is not divorced sending flowers to her work is a bit.... iffy.
Reply:I wouldn't worry about things, OK?
Reply:It sounds ok to me! I think its sweet... and like you said she may not know who sent them until you tell her ;-)
Reply:no sounds quite nice actually- although how old are you?
Reply:its ok if you are sending her flowers..... good for you
Reply:not at all
Reply:itz o.k i guess
Reply:nah that sounds fine!! What a sweet thing to do! Good luck xx