Mature honest answers only please how would u feel/do if your fiance did this to u on valentines day?

I got him a nice card/gift.He said he "tryed" to get me flowers but the florist would not deliver because we had a bad snow storm(true but nothing like waiting till the last min) and no gift or card.Then we went to diner(my doing) . when the bill came he made no effort to take it so i said do u want me to put it on our "family c.c"(we have a joint one for house bills that we both put the same money in) and he said sure.So basicly we went "dutch".I will say he did get me a clock about 4 weeks later after his mom asked me what he got me and i told her nothing.

Mature honest answers only please how would u feel/do if your fiance did this to u on valentines day?
I tend not to focus on one day as opposed to how I'm being treated on a daily basis. Clearly you are upset though, have you talked to him about this.
Reply:Only you know your fiance and your history with him and honestly who can answer a question like this in a mature and honest without all the facts.



Such as what has he done during all the other Valentine's Days, birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions and what he's like and what you expect of him.



Is he just not the romantic type that doesn't do special things on special occasions? Or is he an insensitive, selfish person who is not really considerate of your wants and needs?



Does he know you want more from him? Have you told him how it made you feel and what you'd like him to do? Does he make efforts in other areas?



How you should feel about him handling this situation should be based on what kind of person he has been during all the other times.



If my husband did this I'd be a little disappointed, but I wouldn't be upset about it. Why? Because every other day he makes me feel loved by all the other things he does for me.
Reply:Goodness.



Valentines is long gone..................has he not done anything right since then?
Reply:I WOULD FEEL HORRIBLE!! He could have made u a mix c.d. or cut flowers out of paper to say sorry that flowers didn't get to u on time! That is not love.
Reply:If he's always this inconsiderate, I would dump him and find a new guy, but if this was a one time thing, I would let it go. Although I will say, I don't care about holiday's. I would rather have a man that tells me he loves me every day, not get a card one day a year because Hallmark says he should.
Reply:You should find a way to let this go or find a way to help him. It's almost June and you are hung up on something that happened in Feb.



Lots of guys just don't know the "right" things to do on these special occasions. They just freeze. Sometimes they need help! I usually let my husband know what I want to do and how he can surprise me. He is relieved when I give him some direction. He is actually getting better at remembering occasions and making them special. It just doesn't come naturally to some guys.
Reply:thank his Mom for da clock n not him. basically, he is useless

well, one could forget to buy a gift although they have it in mind. that's acceptable, ppl are forgetful

but not payin for dinner especially on Vday is not acceptable.

u should reconsider n rethink ur relationship
Reply:I would say if this kind of behavior bothers you, then you should not marry him, because it will not change. My ex-husband was the same way, would get me something for half price the day after valentines day. Now I'm not concerned about whether my boyfriend gives me anything for valentines or birthday, although he does. I'm more interested in how he treats me on a daily basis. But you do need to ask whether someone who ignores you on these times treats you well all the other times.
Reply:lol....it's almost June....why are you concerned with Valentine's Day NOW?!?!?!



Makes no sense to me.



And you really shouldn't focus so much on this ONE DAY. Any guy can send you some flowers and a nice card on one day every year...you should be more concerned with how he treats you on the OTHER 364 days every year.



Just my opinion..
Reply:time for a self diagnostic and then really take a serious look at what you want in life.



Is he there in the picture as he really is or is there a charactor from a romance novel standing in for him? Men are not all like that you know. This is exactly the line of questioning you should be asking now not when you may have to pay for an expensive divorce.



Good luck.
Reply:honestly, a reaL mAN DOESEN'T NEED SOME MAN MADE OCCAISION TO SPEND MONEY ON HIS GIRL, IF IT'S TRUE loVE , THEN EVERY DAY IS VALENTINES DAY.
Reply:Some men are thoughtful enough to remember gifts at holidays, and for others it is impossible. I would not say he does not love you. He just may be one of the ones who just do not get in the spirit of things. Next holiday time, order your own flowers or buy you a nice gift, wrap it and open it in front of him. Make sure it is VERY expensive. After a few holidays, he will get the point and hopefully take some incentive to step up and be more thoughtful. If not, continue, but always thank him for his gift! And yes, put it on HIS card.
Reply:The whole flower delivery thing is quite believable and most guys do wait until the last minute....but beyond that he was pretty much being a prick, especially when I'm sure you would have been satisfied with the gesture if he'd just coughed up and paid the bill. And his mom had to scold him into getting you a present? Sad. It's not "you should leave him" material but I definitely hope he didn't get any for a while after that, and that you told him you were pissed off and didn't just keep it bottled up inside.
Reply:I don't think I would really care at all actually. I've never really celebrated valentine's day unless you count getting discount chocolates the day or two after the holiday is over. I'm more interested in the practicalities of my relationship and the love and fun times we share everyday than some hallmark holiday. It's actually really lame. My husband and I don't do romance. I guess we're realists.



Think about it, does your fiance love you? Does he care about you? Does he treat you well? Do you love him? Do you treat him well? And I'm not talking romantic cliches here, but with things that matter.
Reply:maybe he's spending his money with someone else..
Reply:what I would be annoyed not even a card gee you can go to a discount store and get one for one dollar

he sounds like a tight a**

you poor thing

good luck to you
Reply:i'm going to give you my honest opinion here ok if this is the only time that something like this has happened i wouldn't worry about it to much but if this the normal pattern of things then after you get married don't expect it to change he showing right now how things are going to be and what you should expect from him in future except it or not its up to you people don't change i see alot of questions about stuff like this on here all the time, the signs that this was going to be was there all along they just never paid attention to them.
Reply:This could be a one-time-thing. Try waiting for the next holiday/occasion you guys plan on spending together. If he acts the same way, you should have a talk with him.
Reply:talking to him about it may be a good idea...but you cant teach an old dog new tricks! has he always been like this? even on other special days/occasions/holidays? if this bothers you, let him know. if his actions are something new or uncalled for, something is up! you can do a little more observation then approach him (if its a new attitude) or simply let him know that you'd like to be acknowledge on what you believe in. good luck
Reply:I would be absolutely heartbroken to say the least. Poor girl.

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