Ok now what?

well after many weeks of continual arguing and my wife threatning to leave. today i decide that i wanted to surrender my pride and unfounded suspicion of infidelity and move on. i had a dozen of red roses and a nice gift delivered to the house while i was gone to the gym!! well needless to say i am somewhat disappointed in the outcome. she told me that she appreciated the flowers, but "not to send her anymore". so what now? do i just hang around until she actually leaves? do i leave? or what??? for a otherwise intelligent man(I AM AN ENGINEER BY TRADE) i am at a loss as to what to do next. i would just like to take her in my arms and let things go, but i am afraid she might get mad as hell and have me arrested for something. and yes i did write her a letter with the flowers expressing my desire to work things out i have even sent her e-mails trying to talk, but she just ignore them!! so what now?? we havent had sex in over 3 weeks because she wont let me touch her! so wHAT NOW??

Ok now what?
The most intelligent people on this earth get hurt by love. Love doesnt seem to have much logic. The sad truth is...you cant make someone else feel the way you do. You may have these incredible feelings of love for your wife, but she obviously doesnt possess them for you. Its very sad, but there is nothing you can do to force her to love you again. Maybe you need to gather up your pride and leave yourself...maybe that is the only way your wife will see you differently. Maybe when she sees you are a proud man...a man who will not allow himself to be treated like a pawn, then she may see you in a different light. Whatever you do, take what she is saying seriously. If there is another man involved...do you really want to come second? Whatever the reason she has fallen out of love with you......you loving her, or doing nice things is not going to make her love you. Understand that, then maybe you will find the strength to leave. Stop being so nice....she is treating you badly and you should be angry and not so compliant. Let her make her move, or you make yours, but just dont allow this situation to go on any longer. As much as you need intelligence, you also need pride. It seems your pride is lacking badly at the moment and whilever you allow yourself to be treated this way, you will lose any self esteem you would have left, and I bet you havent got much at the moment. Dont do this to yourself any more....find the strength...do your grieiving...then move on.
Reply:Maybe need some time off!!!!!!!!
Reply:I am at a loss for words...What is her reason for acting like this? What do you feel is the reason? Do you think that it's you? I hope not. If she is so unhappy then she needs to go not you. you're trying to make it work and then some.